Tuesday, October 21, 2014

What is, and isn't, Polyamory

Let me preface this by saying this is just my humble opinion and may, or may not, be the widely accepted or socially correct definition of polyamory.

What is polyamory?
It is consensual non-monogamy. It's the allowance of any person to have more than one committed, loving relationship. It may, or may not, incorporate sexual behaviors. It can occur in a myriad of arrangements, but the one theme that always follows successful poly relationships is the fact that it is built on honesty and communication.

What isn't polyamory?
Swinging. There's no commitment, no love, involved here. This is not poly. This is permissive promiscuity.

Polygamy/Polyandry/Polygyny. These are just not fair. Why should only one gender be allowed to have multiple relationships? These are selfish and archaic at the least.

Cheating. It's not poly if all parties are not fully aware of the situation. Cheating is wrong, plain and simple. Cheating hurts people.


Serial Dating. Dating someone until something “better” comes along, keeping both around but not giving much thought or attention to the older relationship until something else comes up and then finally deciding to keep only the newer ones. Not poly. This is deplorable. Joker will have more on this subject later.


~Lady Lily

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